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Insight into the Violent Mind Identifying the negative thought processes that contribute

The World Health Assembly recently declared that violence has become a major and growing public health problem internationally. Studies have shown that violence—an extreme expression of aggression toward others—and suicide—an extreme manifestation of aggression directed against the self, overlap to a certain extent. Researchers have long attempted to better understand why some individuals act out aggression toward themselves while others express their anger outwardly. Part of the answer appears to lie in identifying the negative thought processes experienced by those who are at high risk for either suicide or violence. article continues after advertisement Over the past four decades, my colleagues and I have observed clinical material that has expanded my understanding of human destructiveness toward both self and others. I became aware of an underlying critical thought process that is at the core of all forms of maladaptive behavior. I termed t...

When Sex Offenders Are the Scariest Ghosts

In just a few days, the sun will set and kids will start cruising up and down my street. Costumed, faces painted, they have one thing on their minds—sugar. Whether patient or impatient, their parents will have varied thoughts—dealing with the sugar highs they’ll encounter at tonight’s bedtime; gratitude for another mild California evening; the pleasure of watching their kids have fun; the self-criticism when they compare their own neglected front yard to their neighbor’s new landscaping According to the media , politicians, law enforcement, and anti- sex activists, however, what parents are supposed to be thinking about is predators . Scarier than vampires, more determined than zombies, more destructive than Godzilla, Halloween is supposedly predators’ night to manipulate, seduce, capture, and poison our innocent darlings. And so vigilante—sorry, neighborhood safety—groups are publishing the addresses of local registered s...

Pornography: What We Can All Agree On

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Halloween: When Sex Offenders Are the Scariest Ghosts

In just a few days, the sun will set and kids will start cruising up and down my street. Costumed, faces painted, they have one thing on their minds—sugar. Whether patient or impatient, their parents will have varied thoughts—dealing with the sugar highs they’ll encounter at tonight’s bedtime; gratitude for another mild California evening; the pleasure of watching their kids have fun; the self-criticism when they compare their own neglected front yard to their neighbor’s new landscaping. According to the media , politicians, law enforcement, and anti- sex activists, however, what parents are supposed to be thinking about is predators . Scarier than vampires, more determined than zombies, more destructive than Godzilla, Halloween is supposedly predators’ night to manipulate, seduce, capture, and poison our innocent darlings. And so vigilante—sorry, neighborhood safety—groups are publishing the addresses of local registered ...

Sexual New Year's Resolutions

As the oh-so-complicated year 2018 comes to a close, many of us are resolving to make 2019 a better one. The most common resolutions for last year were to eat healthier, get more exercise, and save more money. While these are all admirable goals , it’s interesting to note that sexuality didn’t even make it to the top ten. Here are some suggested resolutions regarding your sexual behavior in 2019—specifically, what you should promise yourself to NOT do. Tomorrow, I’ll suggest resolutions for what you SHOULD do in order to make sex more enjoyable and more in line with your values. Happy New Year. I will not fake orgasms Why do people do it? To end the sex; to make their partner feel adequate (or prevent him from feeling inadequate); because they’re ashamed to admit they haven’t climaxed; to prevent a partner’s anger or criticism. Yes, men fake orgasms too, and for the very same reasons. The alternative for everyone: Be honest about your ...